It's funny, because I think before you even experience pregnancy, you're so numb to moms shaming each other. Because it's not your experience, you just think one is right and one is wrong and may as well just stay out of it - When there is no right or wrong answer. Until you get pregnant and have a kid, and then everyone's opinion, which by the way differ from person to person, have to be imposed on you. And sometimes it's not someone hiding behind a screen, it could be a friend or family member which can be even harder. I think I cared more when I was pregnant, but once I had Louis I just stopped giving a shit and decided what's best for us is what's best for us. My family comes first, not other people's opinions.

I think moms who can value themselves as much as they value their kids, and don't think they have to choose. If you're a happy mom, your kids see it. It's so important to work on yourself as much as you work on your kids. If you're constantly frantic, always judging people, and trying to be perfect, it affects your kids. They pick up on more than you know. All you need is love, patience, and some structure in your home. Those mothers inspire me.

I don't know what I do that's not traditional? Because what is traditional in parenting? Breastfeeding? Stay at home? I don't know. Is that really realistic for every single mother when all of our lives are already so vastly different?